…. they were unschooled, ordinary men …. they had been with Jesus …. the crippled man healed standing with them – Acts 4:13,14

Hardest place

Was with a family recently, and in our sharing ….
was led to ask a question …
“Do you know where is the hardest place to be a Christian ?”


“Its … at home”


Unexpectedly … that sparked off an hour of lively animated discussion from  each of them
… everyone wanted to  talk …
its as though I just uncorked a champagne bottle

Couple of days later …
was in my friend’s car and I asked the same question …
unexpectedly …. sparked off another hour of sharing from my dear friend
in his car


at home, we are seen as who we really are,
raw, … without the glowing make-up or shiny styled hair,
without the neatly pressed power suit or chic dress,
… just plain vanilla me

unscripted, unplanned, unprocessed,
unscented … natural (?)

…. the good, bad … and sometimes the ugly,
and …
sometimes doing things or getting away with things,
we would normally not do in the public eye

and sometimes, we forget and take each other for granted,
forgetting simple courtesies and respect,
or listening to one another,

…. at home, we see our family members as they really are,
and they see us as we really are ….

its so easy for us to magnify the “the speck of sawdust in our brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in our own eye?”  isn’t it ? (Mathew 7:3 NIV)

Whatever the situation,
add a good dose of quiet, patient prayer to the Lord to work in our hearts, strength and wisdom to face our family situations in a loving way.

Strong families … build strong churches … & strong societies.

Blessed are the peacemakers,
    For they shall be called sons of God
Matthew 5:9 (NKJV)


One simple exercise we can do as a family,  is to write a list of good things we see in the other person that we appreciate, and go and share with them.  Also write one to three areas we can pray for each other to improve in, so that our relationship gets better.

Proverbs 16:24 (NIV)
Gracious words are a honeycomb,
    sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Love is a choice, a commitment, not a feeling or how we feel about someone.

1 Thessalonians 5:14-15 (MSG)
Be patient with each person, attentive to individual needs. And be careful that when you get on each other’s nerves you don’t snap at each other. Look for the best in each other, and always do your best to bring it out.


Hold On Tight~Let It Go

In the letter of Colossians, Paul prays an interesting prayer …

Colossians 1:9,11 (NIV, NKJV)
For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you  ….  being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience,

For this reason we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to ask that you may be filled …. strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power, for all patience and longsuffering with joy;

strengthened with all power according to his glorious might
so that we may have great endurance, patience, longsuffering with Joy!

… His power working beyond just miraculous deliverance of our challenges
or miraculous manifestations of His power
… simply for us to have joyful patience.

Amen … Lord strengthen us with joyful patience, so that we can become more like You

 1 Corinthians 13:4 (NIV, NKJV)
Love is patient, love is kind
Love suffers long and is kind

Matthew 5:9 (NKJV)
Blessed are the peacemakers,
    For they shall be called sons of God

Ephesians 5:21 (NIV)
 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ

1 Peter 4:8 (NASB)
Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another,
because love covers a multitude of sins.

Recently, had fellowship with some friends.  One of them was from overseas.  She’s here for a visit with her teenage son.  She believed in Jesus recently.  She was sharing what has happened in her life since knowing Jesus, and her experience of putting into practice the teaching on family relationships in the book of Ephesians.  She shared that …. since then, her husband is more caring and loving towards her.  Then, … she turned and asked her son, what he thinks of mum now.  Her son said that he can see his mum has changed for the better :-).  (Her son and husband have not believed in Jesus yet.)

Paul is right, when he talks about appointing leaders.

1 Timothy 3:4
He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)


“Happy families are all alike;
every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
– Leo Tolstoy, first sentence in Anna Karenina

Family Bible

Further reading:

Defusing family disputes, discord (click here)

Forgiving | Family



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